like the TV series, 25 August, 2002
Reviewer: A reader from England
If you've seen the series, then you know the type of tips
and advice the 'experts' dole out. The book is an easy read,
and fairly compact. It is divided into 3 sections, one by
each of the experts. Overall, the information is well presented
and it covers aspects covered in the series plus more. Sometimes
I do find myself wanting more explanation and examples. There
is a list of recommended reading at the back which would provide
that depth. However, the strength of the book is that brings
together key tips and advice on the 3 main aspects without
getting bogged down in detail. It will give you enough to
make some significant improvements, and steer you on the right
As for the individual sections, the chatty style of Tracey
Cox grates a little, but some people may like that. The other
2 gives their advice in a more direct fashion - which is how
I prefer it.
The book is great to dip into,
or to read straight through. If I had one other wish for the
book, it is that it went on to cover the the early stage(s)
of dating, ie. developing a relationship... but i guess that's
Personally, though I'm by no
means a hopeless dater, I've learnt a hell of a lot from both
the series, and now the book. I would recommend it to just
about anyone. It is the sort of book that even those who think
they are too 'cool'/'succesful' to seek its advice, would
be fascinated by the skills & tips it has to offer. Still,
more the fools they!
Like To Praise..., 18 August, 2002
Reviewer: Jon C Massey from Plymouth, Devon United Kingdom
It is hard to imagine anyone who wouldn't benefit immensely
from buying or reading this book - whether, like participants
in the television series it accompanies, they haven't had
a girlfriend for 12 years, or, at the other extreme, have
slept with 140 partners.
The BBC2 series has been phenomenally successful (the Press
are calling it a cult) because it takes real people, pulls
them apart, then puts them back together again in a rather
The aim is ostensibly to improve their dating skills, but
the three Dating Experts who set out to do that go much, much
deeper and suggest solutions that visibly change people's
lives for the better.
So far, only 16 people have been lucky enough to go through
the Would Like To Meet makeover process - but this book is
an answer to the prayers of the millions of viewers who wished
that Tracey Cox, Jay Hunt, and Jeremy Milnes would help them
change their lives, too.
It is anything but a frothy spin-off. Right from the first
page, the three experts (and they are!) act like a three-in-one
version of the best friend who tells us what we need to know,
even if we won't find the truth particularly comfortable.
The experts will help you analyse your own body language,
appearance and personality so you can appreciate, probably
for the first time in your life, how you come across to others.
Once you realise that, they follow up with first-rate advice
on how to project a new image that you feel comfortable with.
Tracey, one of the very few authors in the world who not only
writes like a dream but looks like one, too, is rightly dismissive
of those who say "be yourself", because if being
yourself isn't getting you anywhere, you're in for a miserable
time for the rest of your life.
Instead, she suggests you "fake it til you make it",
meaning that if you re-educate your body to give out the signals
and the impression you'd like to project, other people will
instinctively believe that you are that person - and because
they react to you in the way you've always wanted them to,
your own behaviour will respond positively to their reaction
and so on, creating a virtuous circle.
Tracey, a screamingly funny writer, tells you, in no uncertain
terms, and with the insight that only someone with a psychology
degree can have, how to make the best of yourself from the
inside out. Anyone who has seen her in action in the television
series will know that her advice is as good as you can get.
Similarly, Jay Hunt, the internationally-rated stylist, and
Jeremy Milnes, the confidence and conversation coach, take
you step-by-step through everything you need to know about
your physical appearance and wardrobe, and give inspired advice
on how to chat people up and give the best impression of yourself.
Everyone who's seen the series has said how the three presenters
would make a fortune if they could distill their advice and
bottle it - and this book is as near as we'll ever get to
It's packed with questionnaires, examples, and snippets of
practical advice in an easy-to-read format that makes this
a perfect dip-into treat.
If this eye-opening book were ever put on the National Curriculum
(now there's an idea!), it would almost certainly lead to
an eventual reduction in the divorce and suicide rates, as
well as being single-handedly responsible for helping to shape
a generation of well-adjusted people who feel good about themselves.
Once you've given yourself the Would Like To Meet treatment
by following the experts' advice in this book (and without
having to expose your inadequacies to millions of viewers),
you'll find that your life will have changed immeasurably
for the better.
And, should you ever be tempted to lapse back into those bad
old ways, you'll discover that Tracey, Jay and Jeremy are
right there on your shoulder, like a triumvirate of Jimminy
Crickets, to keep you on the right path to happiness.
A cracking book from a cracking team - and without a doubt
the most useful self-help book you will ever have the chance
It's not often you get a chance to change your life for less
than a tenner... so grab it while you can!
sure if it helped or hindered, 29 October, 2002
Reviewer: A reader from London
Having loved the TV series of the same name I was quite disappointed
with the book. For starters some of Jay's style ideas seemed
pretty strict and geared to a 'Briget Jones' style - for 30something
women. I'm 22 and would like something that really shows your
personality more! Then Tracey's body language tips seemed
completely open to interpretation. Not sure how on earth I
could put any to use in a crowded bar, dating sceario, where
things happen so quickly. In fact I'm sure it would distract
me from conversation to think about those things. I think
jeremy cam up with some good communication advice. But in
the end I'm not convinced. Probably should've spent the money
on some make-up.