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I Kissed Dating Goodbye
Joshua Harris

Edition: Paperback

Book Description
Joshua Harris's first book, written when he was only 21, turned the Christian singles scene upside down...and people are still talking. More than 800,000 copies later, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, with its inspiring call to sincere love, real purity, and purposeful singleness, remains the benchmark for books on Christian dating. Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers.

 

Amazon.co.uk Review
While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating and love. In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris sets out to expose the "Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating", and offers a realistic outline of how to have a biblical vision of marriage. Harris contends that one must begin with a new attitude, viewing love, purity and singleness from God's perspective rather than thinking that love and romance are things to be enjoyed "solely for recreation". In such well-named chapters as "Guarding Your Heart" and "What Matters at Fifty", Harris encourages the reader to look at one's character rather than revelling in infatuation and to regard love as a truly selfless, biblical act rather than a feeling. Harris refutes the concept that we are victims of "falling in love" (that it is beyond our control), saying that "God wants us to seek guidance from scriptural truth, not feeling. Smart love looks beyond personal desires and the gratification of the moment. It looks at the big picture: serving others and glorifying God". Before you roll your eyes, moaning that this sounds terribly unromantic, know that Harris does a superb job of couching his convictions in the sincere belief that if we are purposeful in our singleness and date with integrity, a fulfilled marriage awaits us--in God's timing. --Jill Heatherly

Purity should be the priority., 17 July, 1999
Reviewer: David Rupert (davidr@ccipost.net) from Nokomis, Illinois
It was if though God led me to this book. I had just broken off a "relationship" and had many questions about why two people date in the first place. This book shed new light on how one can view the single time of our lives, not trying to see how many people we can pickup, but how you can see members of the opposite sex as our brothers and sisters in Christ. With this view, we have an attitude placed in our hearts that we should protect one another from impurity and guard against being dishonest with each other. At 26, I certainly am happy I read this book and feel much more confident about God's plan for me in the "relationship department." I plan to encourage the youth group at my local church to read, study, and understand Harris's well-written book. To stop dating in NO way means to stop living. I plan to do plenty of living and know that if there is somone out there that God wants me to be with, it will certainly happen!

Great book that makes you think!, 12 April, 1999
Reviewer: A reader from Virginia, USA
This is an excellent book that shows how God can speak to you in many different ways. I had been questioning my own beliefs about dating and when I read the book, I was really moved. Joshua Harris has a wonderful way of saying things that I was thinking but didn't quite know how to express. This book made me really think about what I had been "taught" to value in relationships. I have since learned to appreciate the amazing gift of singleness that I have been blessed with up to this point. I believe that this book can speak to people in many different situations, but ultimately leaving an important message: live your life according to what God wants for you and He will help you with everything else. I applaud Joshua Harris for having the strength and determination to talk about an important subject from a refreshing, Biblically-based, perspective that will make every reader think about his/her own relationship with God and with others

Don't judge a book by its title!, 3 January, 2003
Reviewer: A reader from Derby, UK
The title meant I didn't read this for a year. Don't make the same mistake!
It's well written, very well thought out, rooted in many biblical principles and an all-round excellent read for anyone, older teen years and up.
The author's thinking is so counter-cultural that it might strike some people as being quite fanatical or severe. But I'd conclude he's simply employing divine wisdom and being very practical about the way he's applying Bible truth - and perhaps that doesn't come naturally in this area today so it all struck me as pretty refreshing.....
I'd certainly echo other reviewers who wished they'd read this book many years earlier.

It opened my eyes, 2 October, 2002
Reviewer: A reader from Europe
This book changed one of my best friends and made me curious. I thought it was leisure reading coz I'm not in a relationship and have never been in a serious relationship my entire life. Reading this book made me face all my burried fears, desires and questions. I used to joke with my single friends about our pathetic, pitiful situation: being single! But this book really open my eyes: Joshua Harris clearly and logically explains how great it is to actually be single and how we can maximize this "season of singleness"-as he calls it- for His Glory; as we wait for Him to bring us to our future mate.

Not just for SINGLES but for those of us who DATED years ago
Reviewer: Sallywr@hotmail.com from Campbellsville, KY 26 August, 1999
I read this book at age 37 when my oldest child was interested in dating. I had to read it twice; once for my own personal application and again to apply it to teaching my children. I was amazed at Josh's God-given wisdom on the subject of relationships. He has an awsome understanding of matters that took me well into my 30's to achieve and more. This book helped me to address issues that have haunted me well into my married years that are directly resulted from my having dated as a teen. Hind sight is so wise and what I know now from my life's experiences, Josh describes in his book-and well done too. His input on purity is right on the mark.

I have bought almost a dozen copies and given them to single friends in their late 20's, and late 30's (never married), as well as jr. high and high school-age nieces and nephews, my own children and even my mother. Input from these people have ranged from comments like, "not dating may be for some people, but that's not for me", "it is just too idealistic", to "I'll buy into this", and "I would rather be different than just like everyone else who is dating anyway".

I believe those who think it is too idealistic are setting their standards in life way too low. As Christians, we must set the mark to perfection and keep on striving; otherwise, we are settling for less than the best and are setting ourselves up for failure and attack from Satan.

If the conceps taught in this book are "not for you", and you are a Christian, then maybe you aren't really seeking God's will for your life in this area as well as other areas. Courtship rather than dating is Biblical; dating has no good outcomes.

Read this book and then pass it on. Talk it up. It is a concept that is growing like wildfire. This generation coming up who is embracing courtship is going to be awsome in the hands of God!!!

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