Dating can be tough and first dates can be
painful. So what are you to do? Here is a list of dating tips to
start the year out right!
· Meet your date out
and drive yourself. If you want to bail out early, you won't be
trapped. Also, when you have your own car. If things work out, you
won't have any worries about inviting your date in or not. This
helps protect you from your own impulses, because what's worse then
"will he respect me in the morning?" is "How much
will I hate myself when I wake up?". Also when you have your
own car, no need to worry about safety, your date does not know
where you live. This protects you from a date turned bad turning
in to a stalking nightmare.
· Keep the date simple.
You're nervous enough without making a big show, plus you don't
want to lock yourself in to an evening you won't enjoy.
· Men, end the date
first. You will make yourself stand out.
· Women, don't wear anything
low cut or short. It sounds like an old cliché but your first
date knows very little about the woman you are. He will take you
at face value and you don't want to give the wrong impression.
A friend of mine went out for dinner
on a blind date. She is a very conservative women, who really likes
to take her time in relationships. All of us who know her know this
about her. Her date didn't. She went out on the date wearing a sexy
low cut cocktail dress. They went to dinner, had a wonderful evening,
and when he walked her to her door, he pounced on her! She was of
course surprised and upset, but her date didn't know her, he just
took her at face value.
· Wear clothing that you are
comfortable and confident in. First dates are uncomfortable enough
without a tight belt biting you around the waist.
· Men, be specific about where
you are going. This will make the date more comfortable, and will
prevent her from wearing a cocktail dress when you are taking her
· Ask about your date. Each
of us knows we are the most interesting subject :) But the most
interesting conversationalists are people who ask about others.
Great light topics are work, hobbies, sports, kids (if they have
any). If you are really stuck for topics to talk about, and questions
to ask, on the Dateable.com site, in our advice corner, under romance,
single life, we have a great article by Penelope Frohart author
of "The Book of Fabulous Questions" called "What
do I talk about on a date?". She offers some great advice.
· Easy on the perfume. You
want to knock his socks off, but you don't want to knock him out!
· Don't forget to use mouthwash
before you go out.
· Don't order sloppy food.
If you are not paying for what you order, try to stay in the middle
of the menu.
· Keep the conversation light!
Don't talk or ask about old boyfriends, girlfriends, or ex-spouse.
This is a first date, not a therapy session.
· Find out about your dates
eating habits before you plan the evening. Make sure you choose
a place where they will be able to find something to eat.
· Be attentive! There is nothing
worse then a date peering over your shoulder making you feel as
if they are looking for something better.
· If you are not paying be
considerate of what you order. Try to stay in the middle of the
· And last, but not least,
have fun and be yourself!
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