Are you tired of the same old
routine first dates? Need a change from the dinner and a movie
routine? Why not do something that gives you some insight
into each other's personality and is interesting? Not that
I'm totally against dinner and a movie as a first date or
even a tenth date. There is the benefit that you don't have
to think about what you're going to say next for at least
90 minutes (even longer if it's a Kevin Costner epic). I just
think that a change needs to occur when I've seen all of the
movies playing this month at the local megaplex. Another downside
to dinner and a movie is that it can be inconvenient for those
of us who work the nightshift. So I am offering the following
ideas to inspire you to get out of the dating rut, whether
it's your first or tenth.
For the romantic, a picnic
is an ideal choice as long as the weather cooperates. For
inclimate weather you may have to get creative in your location,
but don't give up hope. Traditionally, picnicking is something
that established couples do, but don't be afraid to suggest
it early in your romance. In addition to having as simple
or elaborate meal as you choose, you can bring along a Frisbee
or ball to play catch. You can also take a walk. For the less
ambitious or weather bound, you can people watch or share
a paper (Sunday papers work especially well). Another benefit
is that daylight dating adds a little bit of safety, and you
can always have an escape excuse if things aren't going the
way you planned (Examples: I'm babysitting for a friend, I'm
having my teeth cleaned, I have to have dinner with my parents
- you get the idea.). People also seem to be more honest about
themselves in the cold light of day, which is always refreshing.
Finally, there is the benefit that you can always continue
the date into the evening if things are going exceptionally
Another great date place is
a theme park. If you live near one of the larger ones, like
Disneyland, it can be expensive. Call and ask about local
resident discounts, and if you have friends that work there
ask if they can get you a passes at a reduced rate. Don't
overlook the smaller carnivals and festivals in your area.
It can be significantly less expensive and equally entertaining.
These sort of places have a little of everything, so you should
be able to find something the two of you can enjoy. This is
also a great choice for that first date with his or her children.
Sports and hobbies are also
excellent dating opportunities. Are you a member of a club?
Invite your next date to a club activity. Mountain biking,
hiking, in-line skating, tennis, or any joint hobby can be
excellent first date material. They provide an activity that
you both have a common interest in. Also, there is no better
way to bring out the dark side of people than competitive
sports. Wouldn't you like to see that up front? You can also
impress your date with your skill, or get a few pointers from
him or her.
The whole point though is to
do something that is interesting and allows for you to get
to know each other better. Even if you don't click on a romantic
level, you can always have an enjoyable afternoon that won't
leave you feeling like you should have done your laundry instead.
Heather Jaillett is a freelance
writer from Washington State. After extensive dating she finally
found her soul mate. She still advises many on dating solutions,
and is constantly researching relationships and romance. Exploring
ways to add romance to electronic communication is also another
pursuit she enjoys.
Heather Jaillett writes for
DrDating - a web site for anyone looking for love online.
We have hundreds of articles, E-Books and links to some great
dating and love sites all over the world. DrDating also offers
reviews of some of the most popular dating sites and books.
top of page