The phone rings at 3:00 Monday
afternoon and it is your best girlfriend Jenny, inviting you
to dinner next weekend. What a nice thought, until she tells
you there is "this guy she just knows you'll like".
Do these "arranged situations"
ever work out; these blind dates that well meaning friends
and families attempt to arrange for all of us at some point
in our lives? What do we have to lose anyway? Well, let's
just look at what happened when Jenny tried to do this favor
for her friend Lisa!
It had been a long Monday for
Lisa, and she was ready for a friendly voice on the telephone.
When she heard from Jenny, it was the bright spot in her day.
Little did Lisa know what an impact this call would have on
her life for the next few weeks. Jenny invited her to a restaurant
they had both been anxious to try out; a new little Italian
place with red checked tablecloths, a real live violinist,
and a tempting selection of wonderful foods and wines. This
was just what she was needed to plan for to help her get through
But wait, there's a catch,
and he has a name. Jenny knows this fellow named Bob who just
moved to town and is a really nice guy. She thought it would
be "fun" to do a double date Saturday night with
Bob and his friend from work. It sounded harmless since they've
both wanted to try out the new place, so Lisa accepted Jenny's
invitation and they both made plans to meet at Berelli's Saturday
So far, these girls are doing
the right thing by meeting these guys at the restaurant and
not being picked up. They don't know them very well and if
for some reason, one (or both) need to duck out, neither will
be stuck without wheels.
The weekend rolled around soon
enough and Jenny and Lisa had taken a little trip the mall
to shop for a couple of cute dresses and matching shoes. They
helped each other with their hair that Saturday afternoon,
and almost felt like young schoolgirls going out on their
first date. In a way it was, for Lisa, since it was her first
blind date. She had never done anything like this before,
and although she was looking forward to being with her friend,
she was a little hesitant about meeting this guy Bob. Anyway,
it was just a dinner and that would be it.
They jumped into the car and
drove over to Berelli's, making sure they were "fashionably"
late (but just 10 minutes), not to appear over anxious to
their gentleman waiting. Bob and William had already gotten
a nice table and ordered a bottle of wine, so the scene was
set for a lovely evening. What a cute place this new little
restaurant was! It looked like a page right out of Italy,
with the tables set so beautifully, music filling the room,
and Jenny even noticed a quaint little dance floor near the
violinist for those who wished to become a little romantic.
This was just what she needed, and Bob looked pretty good
too. He had a nice smile, good looking suit, and pulled out
her chair for her when she sat down. This man is right out
of a storybook! Who ever said blind dates are a mistake anyway?
As the evening progressed,
the couples seemed to enjoy each other's company and all four
were convinced Berelli's was a dining experience that they
would recommend to their other friends. Lisa was so glad that
she decided to take Jenny up on her offer. Actually she had
never tried blind dating until that night because of all the
horror stories told in the past. She had heard tales of all
sorts, and although they were true, perhaps they were exaggerated
a bit. They planned another date the next weekend and Jenny
hoped that her first blind date would be her last. Bob very
well just may be the "Mr. Right" she had been waiting
Now that is the way a story
should always go, with a happy ending; however, girls (and
guys) beware of the blind date. Make sure you handle yourself
in a manner that doesn't allow yourself to be taken advantage
of in any way, especially with wine flowing freely all night
long. Many times if you have "let your guard down"
you can find yourself in a situation you may not be able to
handle. For example, if you are really attracted to someone
and let him know it, he can sometimes get the wrong impression.
It just is always a good idea not to be too friendly on first
dates (and sometimes second and third dates) until you really
get to know the person and you are certain he respects your
When employers hire new people,
they many times do reference checks, and sometimes even background
checks before they hire. You can do the same type of thing
by making sure someone knows this person you plan to go out
with and hopefully knows something about his past. The last
thing you want is to fall in love with some guy or gal who
ends up with the reputation of violence or some other seedy
problem. These kinds of situations happen all the time. "But
they would never happen to me
" we all believe;
but they can, so we much be smart about where we go and with
whom we go out with.
Lisa got lucky and met the
man of her dreams, but unfortunately, that isn't always the
way it works. Thinking back to her story, she originally just
planned to have a nice evening and things just happened to
work out much better than she expected. Meeting new people
is fun; just be sure and use good common sense and keep a
safe distance until you know exactly what you are getting
Lu Huskey is an aspiring writer,
liturgical musician, and owner of her own consulting company.
Her experience in relationships is reflected in a successful
20 years marriage and being a mother of three.
Lu writes for DrDating - a
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